Parenting has its challenging days at the best of times, when everyone is actually feeling decent. Parenting while feeling sick is incredibly tough. The only thing I am grateful for, at the moment, while currently feeling absolutely dreadful, is that I haven’t started back at work. At least the only thing I have to feel guilty about is cancelling all plans while trying to return to some level of normality.
The toughest part for me while feeling sick, is not being able to do things that I had planned to do with my girls. Being the last school holidays before heading back to work, I had wanted to make every day count, with something fun planned most days. So far, I have been flat out unwell for almost a week and it’s been tough. Tough, because there’s no rest. Doctors orders have been to rest and limit movement. Try telling that to a five year old that is full of energy and a 9 month old that wants to explore everywhere and has no concept of danger.
Illnesses take longer to recover from when you’re unwell with children. I’m sure I would have recovered sooner, had I had the chance to spend a day or two recuperating.
Still, looking at a positive, the girls can, at times distract me from how bad I feel, as they are my focus rather than how I am feeling. It’s not all doom and gloom.
I am grateful for help I have received while unwell. The biggest help has been in the form of keeping my eldest daughter occupied so that she hasn’t gone crazy with boredom. The break has meant that I could focus my energy on one child and I could rest when my baby was napping.
Seriously, where would we be without support from friends and family? They say it takes a village to raise a child, and that is completely true when the primary caregiver is out of action.
Don’t wait until your sick to grow your village, help and support can come from anywhere, family, friends or parents at your child’s kindergarten or school. If, like me, the hardest thing will be reaching out and asking for help. I reached out this week for help when I needed it, and I am so glad I did.